Communal Grief Rituals

We have 3 communal grief rituals in 2022 on the traditional lands of Coast Salish People.

Some take place over a 2 day weekend, both Saturday and Sunday while another is a one day ritual.

photos by Jem Cresswell

Facilitated by Ahlay and Laurence Cole

What to Expect


This is a two day ritual. We will be on ritual time, meaning time is left at the door once you enter. 

Our time together will be a combination of singing, poetry, movement, practice in sacred listening, witnessing and being witnessed and sharing with the whole group and in smaller groups.


This space is an opportunity to share what is moving through us in whatever shape or form it comes in - perhaps numbness, shame, rage, trembling, stillness, wailing or something else.  

Our work is also inspired by the five gates of grief from Francis Weller: Everything we love we will lose, the places that have not known love, the sorrows of the world, the things we cannot even name that we ache for, and intergenerational or ancestral grief. Together, we will lean into the vulnerability, trust, and surrender needed to remember how to grieve together as a community.

Covid protocol

This is subject to change as the times change. 

This is an indoor event on Capitol HIll.


13 participants min - 26 participants max. 

Each participant is required to send proof of a negative PCR covid test (home tests are not accepted) taken within 72 hours of the ritual start time. An image of the test must be sent by 6pm on Friday, December 9, 2022. Here are recommended testing sites: Wa State or Curative. This is regardless of vaccination status. 

Once gathered, each participant will be at choice as to what feels good for them in terms of masking, distancing, contact, etc. We will have a color-coded nametag system available to indicate whether a person is available for closeness (indicated with a green patch), would like others to keep 6 ft of distance (indicated with a red patch), or would like to be checked in with on a case by case basis (indicated with a yellow patch). Participants are welcome to switch patches throughout our time together if their preferences change in this area. Additionally, each individual can choose to wear a mask if that is right for them. Beyond the testing prior to arrival, we will not be making specific requests of individuals, regardless of vaccination status.

If you are showing symptoms on the days of ritual, please stay home. 


​RITUAL EARLY BIRD FEE IS $400 USD (September 6 - October 10, 2022)

​RITUAL FEE IS $500 USD (October 11 - November 28)

Sliding scale limited solidarity slots available.

15% of ritual fees will be redistributed to Grief to Action and Real Rent Duwamish.

We don't believe in barriers to healing spaces. The cost of this ritual should not be a barrier to you if this space is calling to your soul. That being said, the cost of this ritual is so that the facilitators and organizers may be resourced and we can redistribute offerings to Real Rent Duwamish & The Grief to Action Camp. We are committed to making this work accessible to a wide variety of communities; especially cash poor and working class folks who are on the front lines of social movements and community work. Limited Sliding Scale Slots and two work trade options per ritual are available. 



A full refund will be given for participants who receive a positive PCR COVID test prior to gathering. Cancellations prior to November 1 will be provided a full refund minus a $50 handling fee. Cancellations prior between November 1 and November 27 will receive a 50% refund, minus the $50 handling fee. If a cancellation is made on or after November 28 we cannot guarantee a refund due to the low likelihood of someone from the waitlist being able to fill your spot. If we are able to fill your spot, we will offer a 50% refund minus the $50 handling fee. This policy helps to hold us all accountable and creates some protection for us as the facilitators and organizers.

humpback whale teach us how to breathe, into our bodies so that we may grieve

deep into the dark, into the abyss - so we may rise up into all our bliss

For questions or inquiries you can reach us via email. 

Join the waitlist for Communal Grief Rituals

We will add you to the waitlist for the dates you are interested in and send you updates as they arise.

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